Ask a Marriage Counselor Series: Are You Pro-Marriage or Pro-Divorce?
When people come to me for marriage counseling Raleigh NC, they often ask me whether I am, as a couples therapist, pro-marriage or pro-divorce. I would typically answer this question by saying that I am pro-healthy relationships, and I enjoy helping both partners be in a healthy relationship.
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What is a Healthy Relationship?
A healthy relationship is a relationship where both people feel safe, secure, happy, and fulfilled with each other. It is a relationship in which you are able to express your frustrations and concerns in a healthy way. It is also a relationship in which there is enough space for both of you to talk about the upset in a way that promotes closeness instead of pushing you away from each other and both of you feeling lonely and disconnected.
How Does Our Attachment Style Affect Our Relationships?
Healthy relationships are founded on secure attachment. Couples in relationships with secure attachment strive for deep emotional contact with one another while maintaining their independence and individuality. They encourage each other’s personal growth and learn from their own mistakes.
Healthy Communication
When two people are in a healthy relationship, they allow each other to feel heard and seen because they recognize that when they feel unheard, they might withdraw and separate themselves, blame, criticize, or ignore the problems without understanding what caused them or trying to figure them out.
Honesty and Openness
They foster openness, honesty, and vulnerability by making each other feel comfortable sharing their deepest thoughts, feelings, needs, and concerns without fear of judgment or rejection.
So, learning how to openly discuss feelings and thoughts in an atmosphere of complete honesty is a big step towards a healthy relationship. And marriage counseling Raleigh NC can be a safe place to learn and master the skills.
Emotional Support & Accountability
Furthermore, couples in healthy relationships support each other when needed, accept responsibility for their actions. They often turn to each other’s emotional bids and respect each other’s boundaries.
Repair, Not Refrain
Creating a relationship climate of openness and accountability can help resolve disagreements quickly; couples in healthy relationships with secure attachment know how to repair after conflicts instead of avoiding them.
Nevertheless, maintaining a healthy relationship requires ongoing effort and dedication, just like any other meaningful pursuit in life. Marriage counseling can help you develop a deeper understanding and connection with each other’s emotions and learn practical techniques to remain calm and resolve arguments constructively, especially during times of high stress.
Summary
So, again, as a marriage counselor, I will work hard to help you understand your relationship with yourselves and to understand your relationship with each other. I will also help you create a framework for a beautiful, healthy, and fulfilling dialogue between the two of you.
As a bonus takeaway from marriage counseling, you can transfer these skills to your other relationships – with your children, family members, friends, or coworkers. I hope this is helpful and that you apply it not only to your relationship with your spouse but also to your relationships with your children, friends, and other significant people in your life. If you have any questions or would like to schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation with me, click here or check out the FAQs to learn more.
This is not your typical weekly kind of therapy. I am here to help couples and individuals in relationships do what is proven to work to help them heal their relationships. Through marriage counseling Raleigh NC, marriage retreat in North Carolina, online therapy North Carolina, and individual counseling, there is something for every couple who wants to heal their relationship.
Stop wasting years of your precious life to feel happy. Schedule your free 15-minute consultation with me today by clicking here. During the call you will discover how having a place to heal your relationship with a guide can take you from the hurt to a healthier relationship than the one you grew up with.
Hi, I'm Irina Baechle, LCSW, in Raleigh, NC. I believe in the power of healthy relationships and write on that topic. Whether you and a partner are co-creating a healthy marriage or you are single and navigating how to have healthy relationships, my content is for you. Let's make healthy, trustworthy marriages the norm instead of the exception!
Topics I write about include marriage, infidelity, roommate marriages, healthy second marriages, and healing after toxic or unfaithful marriages.
