Marriage Counseling Raleigh NC & Couples Therapy Raleigh NC

Find your connection as a married couple again.

Marriage Counseling in Raleigh NC

There is nothing more heartbreaking than when your partner starts to feel like a stranger. You aren’t sure what to do, where to turn to. Do you need marriage counseling or a divorce attorney? You fight against giving up, you want to feel closer and deeply in love again.

Your brain and body keeps asking your partner in silent and not so silent ways:

“Are you even there for me?”

“Can I count on you?”

“Do I fucking matter to you?”

 

It All Comes out Wrong

Because these questions have been burning inside you for sooo long, the only thing that comes out of your mouth is blame, criticism, or loud silence. Your partner, feeling that they’ve failed (once again), either attacks back or freezes up and moves away. Then both of you feel miserable and hopeless, stuck in this so familiar and never ending vicious cycle.

You have been trying to resolve your marriage issues for years.

You spoke with trusted family and friends. Maybe you’ve even tried some meh couples therapy. You know that you both deeply love each other, and it’s beyond frustrating to be stuck in this place feeling completely exhausted, alone, and sad.

Your Relationship Needs a Change NOW

Whether you are fighting all the time or stuck in the roommate marriage cycle you can’t imagine another year or another decade like this. You coexist together running on the treadmill of life, taking care of everything and everyone, but feeling trapped, alone, unseen, and utterly exhausted. You know that you love each other deeply, so how did you end up here?

Whether you are the one who pursues the emotional connection (because you feel “alone”) or withdraws from it (because you feel “inadequate”), I want you to know this:

What you’ve been told about healthy marriages is a lie

What if I told you that almost everything you’d been taught about having a healthy, sustainable relationship or marriage was a lie? As a marriage counselor, I spend months with my couples teaching them to unlearn common relationship myths like “Relationship should feel easy and natural” or “We fell out of love and probably need a divorce.” Think about what you see in movies, and in your friend’s relationships. A lot of people have tools for relationships that include: “be nice”, “be honest”, “don’t go to bed angry”.

But, how many couples have you seen fall apart when they were really nice to each other? They were so nice that they let arguments build up and fester until every ounce of love had been drowned out. How many times have you tried to resolve a conflict with your partner for hours only to end up at the end exhausted, not really feeling resolution- but trying to just sweep everything away so you could finally get some sleep?

And, what happens when our honesty deeply hurts the one we love? How can we be honest when we don’t even know how we feel most of the times? Think about our 50% divorce rate in the United States, or that the divorce rate in subsequent marriages goes up instead of down! We aren’t be told the truth about relationships and we need to learn.

 

You are tired of repeating the same cycle in your marriage.

You are ready to:

 

Be able to communicate effectively

Share the emotional and invisible burdens of your marriage

Feel less lonely when it comes to nurturing your children and your marriage

Help your partner to not be afraid of their emotions and externative feelings and needs

Feel deep connection and desire again for one another emotionally, physically, and sexually.

 

As your marriage counselor in Raleigh NC, I want this life for you! You deserve this life today.

My name is Irina and I provide Couples Therapy in Raleigh NC that works!

I can help you transform your marriage (or a relationship if you are not married) into a sustainable, love-filled gooey experience!

Don’t hesitate. You are worthy of this investment. Your marriage is worthy of this investment!

So, what really works in marriage counseling?

If you or someone you know has gone to couple’s therapy and found it was a waste of time, money, and energy, you are not alone! Most couples therapists do not have ANY formal training on what really works in couple’s therapy! Can you believe that! It makes me angry- because I know that means people are working so hard only to miss out on what they could experience!

 
 
 
 

I only provide Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) because I know it is what works!

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is the #1 research-validated relationship therapy and the ONLY couple therapy recommended by the American Psychological Association to help improve relationships. EFT revolutionized marriage counseling and research shows that 70 to 75 percent of couples who go through EFT recover from distress and are happy in their relationships. 

Did you hear that? This is amazing news and it means that you, too, can find a way back to each other. And I will show you exactly how to do that using the gold standard approach to marriage counseling.

You are ready to feel loved, seen, and reconnected with your person and that is my entire goal and job. We are going to get down to diving into what has really been standing in the way of a deep, juicy connection.

So, what can you expect from marriage counseling in Raleigh with me (Irina)?

We are going to dive deep and look at what is really fueling the fire. I take a truly balanced approach and you will both feel fully supported in developing the kind of relationship you deeply desire. We don’t play the blame game here. I drop some well timed “f-bombs” and keep it real. No secrets. No bullshit. We are going to dive in weekly for about a year. Wait.. a year, is that a joke? It’s not, but keep reading to understand why.

 
 
 

You’ve spent your entire life learning how to do relationships wrong!

And, it isn’t really working or getting you what you want. You are here because you want to do the marathon and have an above-average (AKA: stellar ) relationship. Yep, that’ll take us about a year to rewire your nervous system and your brain patterns for the kind of relationship you’ve been fantasizing about.

The truth is, this next year is gonna come and go whether you work with me or not. You’ll either be sitting a year from now looking at your partner feeling grateful and gooey or you’ll be experiencing the heartbreak of feeling alone. Because whether you stay in your relationship or not, there is nothing worse than feeling alone and disconnected.

Here is the good news about working with me… people rave about working with me… for a year? Can you imagine?! I’ve got 5-star review after 5-star review. Here are a few quick highlights of what people say about couples therapy with me:

“Just do it.”

“Everyone needs an Irina”

“There are no words.”

Click here if you want to see all the juicy details at the end of this page in my 5-star reviews (shared with permission of course!) But, let’s be honest. It is time to make a decision and get started. You’ve been googling couples therapy in Raleigh and reading websites for hours, weeks, or months. You can’t feel like this for 6 more months!

 
 

Let’s schedule your consultation for couples therapy in Raleigh, NC

You’ve got three steps to take right now.

✺ Read this page with your partner

❇ Schedule a time together to talk to me

✴ Let’s get started

I pinky promise if we aren’t the right fit or I can’t help you I’ll refer you out. I don’t want to ruin my 5-star track record and I care more about you getting help than getting a new client.

Click here to schedule your free 15-minute conjoint consultation (that means together y’all!)

My specialties include: roommate marriages, falling back in love, new parents, life after cheating, and high-achieving couples.

Your partner not ready or willing to attend couple’s therapy? Check out my Relationship Therapy for One page.

At the end of your rope and need some relief right here right now? Check out my Customized Marriage Retreat in North Carolina.

It’s Time- You Know It

Contact me for your free 15-minute phone consultation. You deserve it. Your relationship deserves it. You could start over with a new person and end up right back here until you learn.

 

Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Therapy in Raleigh, NC

What is standing in the way of beginning marriage counseling Raleigh NC?

It can feel quite nerve-racking to start couples counseling with your partner for many reasons. These are some of many I hear from couples:

 

  • Most couples are I work with are very well educated with big serious jobs. They are very intelligent. They are excellent problem solvers. Despite all of their professional achievements and skills, they feel so confused about being stuck in their repetitive communication cycles with no resolution. Mary says “ I am so tired of knocking on the door with no answer.” Over and over again. If this is you, I want to let you know that many intelligent people may also need help with navigating relational blocks. Relationships may look simple on the outside, but emotions are very complicated on the inside (my clinical training took me over 8 years!)

  • There are many reasons why partners may feel apprehensive or even resistant to marriage counseling. Some grew up in families where you “don’t share your dirty laundry” with outsiders. Others don’t feel “it’s bad enough” to invest time and money into couples therapy. I see a lot of individuals who find themselves in the middle of a divorce that was initiated by their partner. They are shocked, devastated, and maybe even a little bit relieved all at once, and are not even sure what they are looking for besides processing this all and redefining themselves. If you feel overwhelmed and find yourself on the fence about your relationships, I am here to help you.

  • Great question. I wish I could answer it for you without firs spending a little bit of time getting to know your relationship history, attachment wounds, and childhood patterns. But I can’t. What I can do is to let you know that whatever you are struggling and need help with, I have several great options for you:

    Marriage Counseling Raleigh NC: you love each other, but feeling stuck

    Individual Therapy: your partner won’t go to couples therapy or you want to work on yourself

    Online Therapy North Carolina: only for those who live in the states of NC and VA, or abroad (read about top 3 truths about online counseling here)

    Marriage Retreat in North Carolina: you want to jumpstart your marriage by doing 2 months of therapy in one day (read more here)

  • You are feeling exhausted and hopeless. You are done with mediocre couples therapy. You want the best marriage counseling possible. This is why I love Emotionally Focused Therapy (or EFT). EFT revolutionized marriage counseling and research shows that 70 to 75 percent of couples who go through EFT recover from distress and are happy in their relationships. This can be you! I want this for you.

What sets Irina Baechle as a marriage counselor Raleigh NC apart?

 

I absolutely love what I do

I am always learning to be a better person and a clinician

I am direct and I do not sugar-code

I drop F-bombs in sessions (when they are needed)

So what are you waiting for?

You can’t afford to wait. If you think time will help healing your relationship wounds, it won’t. In fact, you will grow more resentment, anger, and life dissatisfaction. These symptoms of unresolved trauma may eventually lead to new or more chronic pain. We also have research data now showing that relational distress can impact family economics, heart disease, and even longevity.

You’ve googled “marriage counseling Raleigh NC” so many times.

Fear not, I‘ve got you covered: watch this video where I walk you through each step of the way so you know exactly what to expect.

If you are a couple who can’t communicate with each other without fighting or shutting down (and sometimes both), schedule your FREE 15 min phone consultation with me here to discuss strategies to help you heal past hurts, calm your inner critic down, and strengthen trust and connection with your most important person.

 

What to expect during your first consultation call with a therapist

 

What people are saying on Google about Marriage Counseling in Raleigh with Irina

  • “We've just completed a full day EFT intensive with Irina, and are shocked how much we didn't know about how each of us was really feeling on the inside (we have been together for a very long time). This technique is simply amazing and I am actually excited to continue working on my relationship for the very first time ever. Just do it.”

  • “Irina is such a joy to speak with. She has a warm and compassionate demeanor and is incredibly thoughtful, while also always being honest and asking you to do the same. She has so much knowledge on multiple therapeutical modalities and theories. I always love picking her brain and hearing what insights she has on different topics. She also consistently works to continue her own education and learn new ways to enhance her practice. I wish everyone could have someone like Irina in their corner.”

  • “There are no words to adequately describe the incredible therapy I received from Irina. She is truly one of a kind. While struggling with divorce and all the feelings and emotions that entails, therapy with Irina was truly a Blessing for me. She is so insightful and knowledgeable in so many ways. My time in therapy with her changed my life!!!”

  • Irina has been an absolute blessing in our lives. With her compassionate approach, she has not only helped to save our marriage but also guided us towards a future filled with love, understanding, and anticipation. We are now proud parents-to-be, expecting twins, and we owe a great portion of our unity to Irina's expertise.

    From our very first session, Irina made it a priority to ensure that both my husband and I felt heard and understood. Her genuine nature and empathetic demeanor created a safe space for us to express our deepest fears, frustrations, and desires. Irina's ability to connect with us on an emotional level fostered a sense of trust that was vital for the healing process.

    One of the most remarkable aspects of Irina's approach is her authenticity. She never hesitated to challenge us when necessary, encouraging us to confront uncomfortable truths and address unresolved issues. Her guidance extended beyond mere words, as she provided practical recommendations for activities and work that would help us rebuild our connection. We followed her suggestions, and even months later, we continue to reap the benefits.

    What truly sets Irina apart is her genuine passion for counseling. It is evident that she isn't driven by financial gain but rather by a sincere desire to help couples find happiness and harmony. Irina consistently demonstrated that she had our best interests at heart, and she never hesitated to let us know when she believed we were ready to graduate from therapy or when she felt we needed more work. This level of transparency and honesty allowed us to trust her deeply.

    If you find yourself in need of a marriage therapist who leads with compassion, authenticity, and true dedication to her craft, we wholeheartedly recommend Irina. She has the power to transform relationships and bring joy and fulfillment back into your life. Trust in her expertise, and you will find yourself on a path towards a brighter, happier future.

  • “I'm so beyond thankful I found Irina during a critical time in my life. I needed someone to help me find solutions. She never imposed her own opinions or values on me and from the first phone call she made me feel heard and understood. Her advice to me has made a lasting impact and for that I'm so grateful. I do believe she genuinely cares.”

  • Irina is a caring, compassionate therapist who is passionately committed to helping couples increase intimacy, , connection, and healing. With kindness, professionalism, and a refreshing balance of directness and humor, she works intentionally to create safety for tackling some of the real sticky issues that arise in relationship. I never hesitate to refer couples who are looking to deepen their relationship to Irina because i trust they will be in great hands.

 Not sure if marriage counseling or couples therapy is for you?

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Not looking for marriage counseling but need a therapist in North Carolina or Virginia ?

Relationship Therapy For One
your partner won’t go to couples therapy or you want to work on yourself

Online Therapy North Carolina
only for those who live in the states of NC and VA, or abroad.

Marriage Retreat in North Carolina
you want to jumpstart your marriage by doing 2 months of therapy in one day!